I Hate the Word Fat

I really do. I know euphemisms don't really do anything but make things sound nicer, but calling people mean names doesn't do anything but make you an a**hole.

There's no reason to ridicule people for what they look like or choose to do. Ever. There's also no reason to judge them for it, negatively. Judging meaning making preconceived and one-sided ideas about them, not judging as in sizing up positively/who you think they MIGHT BE.

I've recently realized JUST HOW MANY people would refuse to date someone (or be friends with them even) over something as small as 5-10 pounds. People who are beautiful/handsome to no end, and talented, and intelligent, that are only a little squishy in the tummy. Everything else is right! And I've realized that I used to think like that, attractiveness-wise, and I was so wrong.

It's taken me gaining weight and keeping it for pretty much no reason (I take care of myself. I move around, I eat good foods, etc.) other than that it's how I'm built, to come to a point where IDGAF whether someone has lean muscle when deciding who to date. It's a nice bonus, sure, but what's important is "the person, not what they look like." - Fat Albert :)

I've heard members of my own family, who are ALSO OVERWEIGHT, call people disgusting because of their size, and speculate about their ability to adequately have sexual relations. Since when are people gross? Since when was it okay to look at someone who (depending on your beliefs) was created by GOD (or defeated all odds to be born, because that's a feat) and make them out to be less than you because of their stored energy? I'm getting all worked up, haha.

I just got to thinking, "I have absolutely wonderful great grandparents, who were (are) married forever. What if they'd gotten bored, or just weren't attracted to each other anymore (BECAUSE EVERYONE GAINS WEIGHT OR GETS SOFT WHEN THEY GET OLD), and got divorced like everyone else seems to be doing? I wouldn't have seen the kind of love that builds up in over seventy years and know what I want for myself. I wouldn't know that those sorts of relationships exist."

Those people that won't even say maybe to someone because of a few extra pounds are the same hypocritical S's O B's that aren't going to be attracted to their spouses when they age. The same type of people who cheat because "oh, they let themselves go, I deserve someone attractive".

I don't WANT to date that person. So it's GOOD that they make it clear in the beginning.

We live in a world that is SO superficial, that sometimes we forget to look at who the PERSON is, rather than the body that's carrying them. We also forget that everyone is beautiful to someone, and everyone is someone's child, someone's sister/brother, someone's parent. There are people that love them, who would chop my proverbial balls off if I said things like that aloud in their presence.

I've started trying to remember that every time someone pisses me off, and I feel like thinking they're bad people. It's hard, but it's worth it.

<3
Moriah